|                     Life with Gustav Mahler (1901 -                     1911)                   On 7 November 1901, at the house of her friend Berta Zuckerkandl,                     Alma met celebrated conductor Gustav Mahler who, as Director                     of the Vienna Court Opera, held one of the most powerful positions                     in the world of music.                                                                 |                         |                         |                                                                 |   |                         |                         |                                                                 |                           Alma Schindler, 1900                        |                         |                                                  Gustav Mahler en route to the Vienna                           Court Opera                        |                                                            At the evening gathering, Mahler fell in love with the young                     beauty, and just a few weeks later, on 28 November, he made                     her a proposal of marriage. Alma's family attempted to persuade                     Alma not to enter into the association, since Mahler, 19 years                     her senior, was considered too old for her, and there were                     also rumours that he was completely impoverished and suffering                     an incurable illness. The Jewish origins of the Bohemian composer,                     who had converted to Catholicism, constituted a further stumbling                     block.                                                                |                         |                         |                         |                         |                                                                 |   |                         |                         |                         |                         |                                                                 |                           Berta Zuckerkandl                        |                                                                       |                                                 Gustav Mahler, Director of the Vienna                           Opera                        |                                                                       |                                                 Alma Schindler, 1900                        |                                                           On 19 December 1901, Mahler wrote a 20-page letter to Alma,                     in which he set out to his wife his plan for a future life                     and requested that she abandon her composition work: "How                     do you imagine both wife and husband as composers? Do you                     have any idea how ridiculous and subsequently how much such                     an idiosyncratic rivalry must end up dragging us both down?                     How will it be if you happen to be just "in the mood"                     but have to look after the house for me, or get me something                     I happen to need, if you are to look after the trivialities                     of life for me? - Does this mean for you breaking off your                     own life, and do you think you will have to do without a high                     point of being which you cannot live without, if you entirely                     give up your music in order to possess - and also to be -                     my own?"                   Alma was confused and wrote in her diary, "He thinks                     nothing at all of my art - and thinks a great deal of his                     own - and I think nothing of his art and a great deal of my                     own. That's how it is! Now he constantly talks of preserving                     his art. I can't do that. It would have worked with Zemlinsky,                     because I empathize with his art - he is a brilliant chap."                   However, on 23 December the couple became engaged, and on                     9 March 1902, Alma and Gustav Mahler married in Vienna at                     the Karlskirche. Both Mahler's friends and many from their                     circle of acquaintances reacted uncomprehendingly to the marriage.                                     Bruno Walter, conductor at the Opera House and Mahler's closest                     confidant, wrote:                   "Mahler is 41 and she 22, she is a celebrated beauty,                     used to a glamorous social life, while he is so unworldly                     and fond of being alone ..."                                                                                                                       The couple moved into an apartment near the Opera House.                     Their household included two maids and an English governess                     for their daughter Maria, who was born on 2 November 1902.                     However, life together with Mahler was completely different                     from the varied and gregarious life to which Alma had been                     accustomed at her parents' house. Mahler hated socializing,                     and attached great importance to a regular daily routine in                     order to manage his workload. Alma soon felt isolated, felt                     herself to have been degraded to the level of housekeeper,                     and was bored. The feeling of inner emptiness was not changed                     either by the birth of the couple's second daughter, Anna                     Justina, who was born on 15 June 1904 and nicknamed "Gucki"                     ("peek") because of her expressive eyes.                                                                |                         |                         |                                                                 |   |                         |                         |                                                                 |                           Alma in 1904 with her newborn daughter                           Anna ("Gucki")                        |                         |                                                 Alma in 1905 with Gustav Mahler (centre)                           and daughters Maria and Anna                        |                                                           In the person of his wife, Mahler missed having a companion                     with whom to share life. The conflict between them worsened                     when she allowed herself to succumb to an impetuous flirtation                     with his colleague Hans Pfitzner. With the knowledge and approval                     of Mahler, Alma had also been getting together again with                     Zemlinsky in order to make music with him. However, Zemlinsky                     refused to begin teaching her again.                   In July 1907, the couple's daughter Maria, who was just five                     years old, died of diphtheria. For Mahler, the death of his                     beloved child marked a figurative caesura in his life, and                     increased the gulf between him and Alma. Moreover, at a routine                     examination, Mahler was found to be suffering from a heart                     defect which severely restricted his activities.                                      In the Viennese press there were repeated criticisms of Mahler's                     leadership style at the Opera House, which finally led to                     his withdrawal from the Viennese music scene. In December                     1907, he took on an appointment with the  Metropolitan Opera House                     in New York, to which Alma accompanied him. While Mahler celebrated                     his first major success with the performance of Wagner's Tristan                     and Isolde, in New York too, Alma felt isolated and alone.                     In the six months which the couple subsequently spent back                     in Europe, Alma spent most of her time at convalescent spa                     resorts and lived apart from her husband. It can be seen from                     letters that, during this time, Alma at least suffered a miscarriage                     or had an abortion.                   In May 1910, Alma went with her daughter Anna to the spa                     town of Tobelbad, a small upcoming resort in Styria. After                     eight years of disappointment, Anna now consoled herself for                     her years of deprivation in the person of a young architect                     named Walter Gropius, who was later to become a leading figure                     in modern architecture through the Bauhaus movement. After                     all the years with Mahler which, for Alma, were characterized                     by deprivation and asceticism, her pent-up longing to be taken                     seriously as a woman now exploded within her. The two lost                     themselves in unrestrained nights of passion.                                                                |                         |                         |                                                                                          Above: Alma out walking with Gustav Mahler in Toblach                         (1909/1910)                         Left: Young architect Walter Gropius |                                                           The affair came to light when Gropius "mistakenly"                     addressed to Gustav Mahler a love letter intended for Alma.                     Despite talking through the situation, Alma however continued                     her relationship with Gropius in secret. Mahler's 10th Symphony                     was created in the light of this discovery, and the manuscript                     reveals an abundance of personal entries documenting how Mahler                     was going through the hardest crisis of his life at the time:                     "You alone know what it means. Oh! Oh! Oh! Farewell                     my lyre! Farewell, farewell. Farewell" and "To live                     for you! For you to die! Almschi!".                                                                |                         |                         |                                                                 |   |                         |                         |                                                                 |                           The manuscript of Mahler's 10th Symphony                                                      bearing the handwritten notes:                           "To live for you! For you to die! Almschi!                         |                         |                                                 Gustav Mahler in 1910 on the ship                           to New York                        |                                                           Mahler was recommended to get in touch with Sigmund Freud,                     who saw him in August 1910 in the Dutch seaside resort of                     Leiden. Little is known about this meeting, which only lasted                     just under four hours. There are scarcely any documents relating                     to the brief session of analysis, but Freud evidently analyzed                     the essence of the relationship, which was marked by a reciprocal                     longing for a father/mother substitute.                                                                |                         |                         |                         |                         |                                                                 |   |                         |                         |                         |                         |                                                                 |                           Marie Mahler,                           Mahler's mother                        |                                                                       |                                                 Gustav Mahler 1907                        |                                                                       |                                                 Alma Maria,                            Mahler's wife                        |                                                           To his student Marie Bonaparte, Freud said the following:                     "Mahler's wife Alma loved her father Rudolf Schindler                     and could only seek out and love his type. Mahler's age, of                     which he was so afraid, was precisely what made him so attractive                     to his wife. Mahler loved his mother and sought her type in                     every woman. His mother was troubled and full of suffering,                     and subconsciously he wanted this also from his wife Alma."                     With this insight, Freud granted a licence to commit incest,                     and thereby brought the couple some final happy months together.                     However, Alma was outraged when, shortly after Mahler's death,                     Freud blithely sent her the invoice for this brief session                     of analysis.                                                                |                         |                         |                         |                         |                                                                 |   |                         |                         |                         |                         |                                                                 |                           Mahler 1911                        |                                                                       |                                                 Sigmund Freud                            analyzed the marriage                        |                                                                       |                                                 Alma 1909                        |                                                           Mahler now began focusing intensively on his wife Alma, for                     instance dedicating his 8th Symphony to her, the premiere                     of which, on 12 September 1910, was to become his greatest                     musical triumph. Mahler also had five of Alma's Lieder                     compositions published in the same year, with premieres in                     Vienna and New York. Shortly before she accompanied her husband                     to the USA for several months, Alma travelled to Paris in                     order to meet up with Walter Gropius once again.                   On his last trip to the USA, Mahler fell seriously ill. On                     21 February 1911, he conducted his final concert in New York,                     and then Alma travelled with her husband back to Europe. The                     couple reached Vienna on the evening of May 12. Gustav Mahler                     died on 18 May 1911 at around midnight, aged nearly 51. He                     was buried in Grinzing Cemetery alongside his beloved daughter                     Maria Anna.                                                                |                         |                         |                         |                                                                 |   |                         |                         |                         |                                                                 |                           The last photograph of Mahler, on                           the crossing from NY to Europe, 1911                        |                                                                       |                                                  Mahler's death mask, taken by Carl                           Moll                        |                                                                       |                                                                |   |                         |                         |                         |                                                           "This man possessed of such wealth, who has plunged                     us into the profoundest sorrow: bereft of the divine presence                     of Gustav Mahler, we are left for a lifetime with the indestructible                     paragon of his work and creative endeavours."                   (Wreath ribbon of Arnold Schönberg and several of his                     students)                                                                                                         In accordance with Mahler's wishes, the burial was devoid                     of any ceremony, and thus his gravestone bears only his name.                     His body was laid out in a small chapel just large enough                     to accommodate the coffin and the first few wreaths. The number                     of wreaths was indeed so great that the others had to be lined                     up along the entire path to the grave of his young daughter,                     for he wished to be laid to rest beside his child.                   "The grieving Fourth Balcony of the Viennese Court                     Opera in ineffaceable recollection - Figaro, Fidelio, Iphigenia,                     Tristan."                                                                 |                         |                                                                 |   |                         |                                                                 |                          Arnold Schönberg: The Burial                           of Gustav Mahler                           (22 May 1911 in Vienna), Oil on canvas                         |                         |                                                                |   |                         |                                                           Mahler's body was taken from the chapel to the grave amid                     heavy rain, and as soon as the funeral party arrived at the                     grave, the coffin was lowered without any further ceremony.                     The still large crowd in attendance, numbering several hundred,                     dared scarcely speak. The rain had stopped, and a rainbow                     in seven colours shone in the sky, while the song of a nightingale                     penetrated the silence. Then the clods of earth fell, and                     it was all over.                                                                                                                       > next: Heaven                     and hell (1911 - 1917)                     < back: The most                     beautiful girl in Vienna (1879 - 1901)                  |                   |